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Old 03. Jun 2015, 09:38 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Default What do you think of people who never acknowledge replies

The heading says it all. You read a post and reply to it but the OP never acknowledges. Not only that, but sometimes you spend even more time looking for information that would make the reply really helpful. Of course, if you had known how it would turn out beforehand you could have meditated on a rock instead, but that time is gone forever.

I know this happens elsewhere on the internet as well, but just because it is a common issue that doesn't make it anymore acceptable. It bothers when this lack of courtesy is so prevalent. Therefore I am asking...

How do you feel when someone ignores your reply?

How do you feel when you see someone ignore another person's reply?

How do you deal with it whether internally or outwardly?
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Old 03. Jun 2015, 11:05 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'll reply to you, Joe .. just in case no one else does

I don't bother if no one replies to my posts. It's the internet and you can't do anything about it anyway. I bump threads, ramble on, and just generally post stuff on here that someone might come across and get a bit of info from. I'm not bothered if anyone acknowledges it or not.

But I'll help if I can by replying to others. Although that said, I'm reluctant to get involved with peoples PC issues because I don't always have the time, and those things can be time consuming, plus there are people on here who do a better job of that sort of stuff anyway.

I don't ever take offence, there's no point. People are what they are .. and if you're happy enough to give a bit of your time to help a total stranger then that says a lot about you as a person. If they don't bother to reply it says a lot about them also.

It's a shame when people don't acknowledge the help and advice offered. But there you are, that's life. I don't let stuff like that get to me.
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 01:14 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Thanks for the reply Deya. Just your expressing a different perspective is comforting. Thanks for that .

About the "helping a total stranger" bit, I always try to give back better than I receive, and I can tell you I have received my fair share of help. At the same time, my parents taught me to always remember to say "Thank you" so I suppose that is why it bugs me a bit. Still, I value your input and I promise to try hard to look at things differently.
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 04:06 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I don't ever take offence, there's no point. People are what they are .. and if you're happy enough to give a bit of your time to help a total stranger then that says a lot about you as a person. If they don't bother to reply it says a lot about them also.

It's a shame when people don't acknowledge the help and advice offered. But there you are, that's life. I don't let stuff like that get to me.
I'm with this approach too.

Especially when working with the site seven days a week, if this type of issue was allowed to even distract you, it would soon take over the "job" and for me at any rate, spoil the enjoyment.

I do post the odd cryptic post from time to time as a reminder for folks to respond. Sometimes it works and sometimes not, but as deya says, this is the internet.
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 12:09 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I don't bother if no one replies to my posts. It's the internet and you can't do anything about it anyway. I bump threads, ramble on, and just generally post stuff on here that someone might come across and get a bit of info from. I'm not bothered if anyone acknowledges it or not.

But I'll help if I can by replying to others. Although that said, I'm reluctant to get involved with peoples PC issues because I don't always have the time, and those things can be time consuming, plus there are people on here who do a better job of that sort of stuff anyway.

I don't ever take offence, there's no point. People are what they are .. and if you're happy enough to give a bit of your time to help a total stranger then that says a lot about you as a person. If they don't bother to reply it says a lot about them also.

It's a shame when people don't acknowledge the help and advice offered. But there you are, that's life. I don't let stuff like that get to me.
Well put deya.
Pretty much reflects the way I see it.

I do understand your feeling Joe, it certainly can be frustrating when you go out of your way to search for answers for someone else's benefit and never get a reply to at least let you know if the solution you found worked out for them. I guess if the subject being discussed interests you it doesn't feel so much like wasted time.
It's amazing how often it appears that someone has put more effort into posting a question/thread on a forum than it would have actually taken to simply "google" the right phrase and read the first few results themselves
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 12:51 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Joe, I get tons of good info from the few internet forums I read regularly - mainly from cycling ones because that's the sport I participate in, but also a couple of tech ones, Wilders for example. And yet the only one I contribute to is this one, I'm not even registered at any others. So for all the info I get from the others, I never reply to anyone, never say thanks, nothing. Does that make me discourteous? .. I don't know, maybe it does. But then, I don't go asking for anything so I don't see the need. It's information in the public domain.

Likewise, on here, Gizmos forum, I get tons of good info. I read all the threads, all the posts, well, maybe not the Linux ones because I don't use it but definitely all the others. But I don't thank everyone for the info and, likewise, I don't expect the people who read the nonsense I post half the time to acknowledge it either. It's just there, posted for people to make of it what they will. That's the way I see it. If I do post a reply to try and help someone and they don't reply, well .... ? It doesn't matter. Someone else might read it at some point and it helps them instead. In that case, job done.

I read your posts, Joe .. and the help you offer others. You come across as a thoroughly decent sort of person to me, as do the many others on here who post regularly. I read it, I learn from some of it, and I appreciate it.

So don't ever think for one minute that you're wasting your time. You're contributing with whatever time you have to offer, just like others on here. While others may just rock up, ask for help or advice, get the reply they're after and disappear. Like you say, it happens elsewhere on the internet, all over it actually. Some people are like that. There's one in every crowd. Don't let them bother you.

Take the positives from the people you have helped and who do reply, I'd say that they're in the majority, and then just smile to yourself at the ones who don't reply. You've probably helped them anyway. Manners cost nothing, but then some people don't always use their manners. I'd say they're the minority though, especially on here.

MC does make the occasional timely 'cryptic post from time to time' when he feels the need ... as does Anupam, and rightly so. They do a good job off keeping everyone on the straight and narrow here, and I'm sure they appreciate your contributions.

Keep smiling, Joe. There are probably more takers on the internet than givers, but don't let them get to you. You're the better person for your efforts, and that's really all that matters.
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 01:56 PM   #7 (permalink)
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It's amazing how often it appears that someone has put more effort into posting a question/thread on a forum than it would have actually taken to simply "google" the right phrase and read the first few results themselves
This.
Also if I ask a question, I probably ask the same think?(sic) on many of the Fora I attend and it may be a long time before I get round to returning and see a reply.
It IS polite to acknowledge responses though.
I'm not short on sarcasm either if I think it won't upset people.
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Old 04. Jun 2015, 02:49 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thank you all. I was curious about what other people thought as well and I appreciate your input.
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